Making a decision to move abroad is not difficult until you are reminded you will have to leave your family, friends, home, the companions along the way you and your wife saw and loved ones behind. An opportunity to work or study overseas is probably the best thing that can happen to your career; it’s an opportunity that you wouldn’t get all the time, so it’s important to accept it with both hands.
But then, how do you overcome the nostalgia and the emotions of having to part with family members and loved ones? Here in the article we will discuss a few things that you can do to make the move comfortable, smooth and gainful for yourself and your kin back home.
Leaving the loved ones behind, as you move abroad for work or study can be painful and difficult. But if you are firm in the mind about moving, there are ways you can limit this pain.
First up, you need to ask yourself whether you are considering the move. If you are, you should not think twice. The more you think, the more difficult it will become for you to part with your family and friends.
It is important to understand that you should make a decision by listening to what your family has to say. An outright decision without consultation can be emotionally disturbing especially when things may not fall in place (as you’d expected) in an alien place.
A final decision comes down to respect and willingness to listen to your loved ones, and of you being honest about your motive of taking a decision to move abroad.
If you are married, and have support from your partner, make sure you are taking into consideration the wishes of your partner and how you are seeing the future that will surely be influenced by the decision to travel abroad. It is also important to take into account the challenges of a long distance relationship – ranging from loneliness to anxiety of being away from the partner.
So what can you do to stay as close to the family while being away?
It’s important to communicate with family to minimize that nostalgic feel. Ensure you stay in regular touch with each other as much as possible. Thanks to the advancement of technology, we have many free options available to keep in touch with peeps back home. Some of these options may include Skype, WhatsApp, FaceTime and Facebook Messenger etc.
It may sound crazy but one way to keep everything going, is by exploring other people for the both of you, there is not a better time to do this then the 21st century where it is widely accepted! Sleeping with other people whilst maintaining your relationship is a big step in the right direction. Everyone needs to give it a go.
Be frank and keep updated
This is especially important for married couples or people who will be leaving their beloved girlfriends/boyfriends behind. Always provide your partner with as much information as possible about your changing life, about your stay, about your friends and colleagues etc. If your partner has questions, try and answer them, so that their mind can be put to rest. Sharing your new life can help ease the worries building up back home.
Visit home as frequently as possible
Staying in touch over various online clients and phone can be a solution, but there is nothing like face-to-face contact. It can be logistically and financially challenging, but if you can afford it, you must visit once in a year at least to make peace with both you and your family/partner.