When Bickering Takes Over

Once you stay with your partner for a considerable period of time, it is quite natural to bicker about trivial issues. Bickering does not signal the end of a relationship, it is just the minute frustrations and the regular petty arguments that you have with your partner which might seem annoying. Here are a few facts about bickering in a relationship:

  • We bicker with our partner only because we are scared to admit our faults openly, the ones which deeply torment us. Also, we tend to assume a state of superiority or authority over our partner by engaging in bickering. At other times, the lack of energy for fruitful communication and conversation prompts us to bicker with our partner.
  • Most of the fights in a relationship originate from the fact that we need to prove that we are right and our partner is not. Control your urge to prove that you are right and do not bicker. If it is starting to get out of hand, you should consider meeting up with a professional to fix the issue.

We all want to put an end to the bickering. Here is how you can do it:

  • When you feel the urge to bicker about something, just name the issue mentally and state the obvious fact. It will calm you down.
  • Try to make sure and question yourself whether this matter is really pertinent in your life or not. If not, then do not waste time by bickering about it.
  • Try to listen to what your partner has to say. Consider his or her opinion in an argument and think carefully whether following their suggestion would cause much trouble or not. Making a little compromise is never bad in a relationship. By this time, you will surely reach a more rational state of mind when you will be capable of thinking calmly.

Bickering will surely leave your lives if you bear these points in mind!

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Leaving loved ones behind for work

Introduction

Making a decision to move abroad is not difficult until you are reminded you will have to leave your family and loved ones behind. An opportunity to work or study overseas is probably the best thing that can happen to your career; it’s an opportunity that you wouldn’t get all the time, so it’s important to accept it with both hands.
But then, how do you overcome the nostalgia and the emotions of having to part with family members and loved ones? Here in the article we will discuss a few things that you can do to make the move comfortable, smooth and gainful for yourself and your kin back home.

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Leaving the loved ones behind, as you move abroad for work or study can be painful and difficult. But if you are firm in the mind about moving, there are ways you can limit this pain.
First up, you need to ask yourself whether you are considering the move. If you are, you should not think twice. The more you think, the more difficult it will become for you to part with your family and friends.
It is important to understand that you should make a decision by listening to what your family has to say. An outright decision without consultation can be emotionally disturbing especially when things may not fall in place (as you’d expected) in an alien place.
A final decision comes down to respect and willingness to listen to your loved ones, and of you being honest about your motive of taking a decision to move abroad.
If you are married, and have support from your partner, make sure you are taking into consideration the wishes of your partner and how you are seeing the future that will surely be influenced by the decision to travel abroad. It is also important to take into account the challenges of a long distance relationship – ranging from loneliness to anxiety of being away from the partner.
So what can you do to stay as close to the family while being away?

Communicate
It’s important to communicate with family to minimize that nostalgic feel. Ensure you stay in regular touch with each other as much as possible. Thanks to the advancement of technology, we have many free options available to keep in touch with peeps back home. Some of these options may include Skype, WhatsApp, FaceTime and Facebook Messenger etc.

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Go Open

It may sound crazy but one way to keep everything going, is by exploring other people for the both of you, there is not a better time to do this then the 21st century where it is widely accepted! Sleeping with other people whilst maintaining your relationship is a big step in the right direction. Everyone needs to give it a go.

Be frank and keep updated
This is especially important for married couples or people who will be leaving their beloved girlfriends/boyfriends behind. Always provide your partner with as much information as possible about your changing life, about your stay, about your friends and colleagues etc. If your partner has questions, try and answer them, so that their mind can be put to rest. Sharing your new life can help ease the worries building up back home.

Visit home as frequently as possible
Staying in touch over various online clients and phone can be a solution, but there is nothing like face-to-face contact. It can be logistically and financially challenging, but if you can afford it, you must visit once in a year at least to make peace with both you and your family/partner.